What is Your Why?

I was watching the movie Collateral Beauty again. The main character, Howard Inlet, played by Will Smith, talks to his employees about the big why of their lives. Parts of his speech (as best that I could write them down) were: 

"What is your why? *** We are here to connect. ***
Love. Time. Death. These three abstractions connect every single human being on earth. Everything we covet. Everything that we fear not having. *** At the end of the day we long for love, we wish we had more time and we fear death."  (To see a clip of this, click here. A warning here - the movie takes a switch in tone after this speech.)

So much seems to be driven by fear right now rather than love. We fear that we don't have enough money, enough stuff. We fear the other. We fear we don't have enough time to do what we want, to get what we want. We spend so much time chasing money, chasing things rather than using our time to be with family and friends, to build community. I can fall prey to this if I start to panic and stress out about things. I now try to catch myself as I don't want to be frozen in fear.

The biggest connection besides that we are all born is that we all die. We fear that there is nothing after death. We fear that there is something after death. We fear that we have no connection to anyone, that we will die alone. I had a neighbor who died in her sleep, and I feel badly sometimes that I didn't call the police for a wellness check. I don't think she would have been still alive if I had called earlier. It's just that she would have been found sooner.

Yet, the first abstraction, love, according to many mystics and shamans is the underpinning of the universe. What a different world it would be if we used love to fuel our lives, our relationships and what we seek to be and acquire. I'm not talking just about romantic love. I also mean love of family, friends and the world. 

Then, maybe, just maybe, we would feel that we have enough time. And that we have enough of whatever it is we want. That there is enough to go around.

The first photograph is by Brigitte Tohm. The second photograph is by Steven Hille. The third is by Jerry Kiesewetter. I found all of them on unsplash.com.

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